Kindness to Self

Nothing in nature blooms all year.
Be patient with your self
Deep in their roots, all flowers hold the light.
      ~Author Unknown

We are gardeners. Gardening is hard work. We experience in the dirt, the mystery and magic of life. Dark, wet, worms, germs, decay and from all this, the light and splendid beauty and color of the garden. We are grateful.


Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte
Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony and Ritual Script Writers, Consultants
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Being a Positive Change

Don’t break a bird’s wings and then tell it to fly.
Don’t break a heart and then tell it to love.
Don’t break a soul and then tell it to be happy.
Don’t see the worst in a person and expect them to see the best in you.
Don’t judge people and expect them to stand by your side.
Don’t play with fire and expect to stay perfectly safe.
Life is about giving and taking.
You cannot expect to give bad and receive good.
You cannot expect to give good and receive bad.
You cannot expect to give hate and receive love.
So if you’re willing to see positive change in your life, you must be willing to be that change itself. — Najwa Zebian


I thought this was so perfect. As a therapist, I sit and listen to the stories of the broken parts and hearts of an individual’s life. I am like a midwife who waits and receives. At first, I hold that which is received. And then, with the one whom I companion, I help craft a mosaic, a beautiful piece of art from bits of broken pieces. At first glance, it might not appear beautiful, but with sunlight the pieces shine, and glow, and transform the broken ordinary into a glimmering shinning extraordinary.

Charlie Cavalconte, M.Div., LADC
Therapist, Wedding Celebrants, Ceremony Script Writers, Ritualist and Consultants
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Refuse to fall down

Refuse to fall down.
If you cannot refuse to fall down,
refuse to stay down.
If you cannot refuse to stay down,
lift your heart toward heaven,
and like a hungry beggar,
ask that it be filled,
and it will be filled.
You may be pushed down.
You may be kept from rising.
But no one can keep you
from lifting your heart
toward heaven–
only you.
It is in the middle of misery
that so much becomes clear.
The one who says nothing good
came of this,
is not yet listening.

~ Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Four from Rumi

These beautiful timeless pieces speak for themselves.

Before you speak,
let your words pass through three gates.
At the first gate, ask yourself:
Is it True?
At the second ask:
Is it necessary?
At the third gate ask:
Is it kind?


“Christian, Jew, Muslim, shaman, Zoroastrian, stone, ground, mountain, river,
each has a secret way of being with the mystery,
unique and not to be judged.”


The minute I heard my first love story
I started looking for you, not knowing
how blind I was.

Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere.
They’re in each other all along.
~RUMI, copyright by Coleman Barks

What was in that candle’s light
that opened and consumed me so quickly?

Come back, my friend! The form of our love
is not a created form.
Nothing can help me but that beauty.

There was a dawn I remember
when my soul heard something
from your soul. I drank water
from your spring and felt
the current take me.
“Water From Your Spring”
~RUMI, copyright by Coleman Barks

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Creating My Life

Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself- George Bernard Shaw, Irish playwright

If, I approach my life as an artist, (or even as an engineer) I see the artist within me searching for the medium which is best suited to speak for my heart, my soul, my life. What are the spectrum of elements I have discovered? How vast the palette available to me for me to use to create and articulate the vastness of my universe. What have I found to voice my heart and spirit? What media have I found for creativity and communication. What language? As artist, I am both  seeker of my medium, and alchemist. I seek to find the vastness of my medium. As I accumulate this abundance abounding, I am given the means to create myself.


Be a Blessing.
All the Best.
Charlie and Cheryl Cavalconte

Truly Living

A wise woman sent us this wonderful quote. She has been our friend for many years and sends quotes almost daily . This one I felt touched that special place of  clarity within. We hope you enjoy the quote and find it helpful in your journey.

“There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don’t. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part to life, getting back up is living.”
Jose’ N. Harris

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